The Ultimate Guide To Being A Dom

 Who Is A Dom?

One of the most misunderstood types of BDSM relationships is the Dom dynamic. For some, it’s just fun role-playing with clothing and outfits. For others, it is their identity.

Even though there are many benefits to this fetish, it can be hard to know what things to say to someone who feels this lifestyle is wrong. 

This blog is inspired by a friend named Lilah. Ever since she became sexually active, she always had a “older man kink”. She loved her Dom and enjoyed being coy and pretending to be innocent.

Unfortunately she did have parental issues growing up. Being in this Dom lifestyle with her partner was a healthy way for her to explore this kink without fear, shame, or enabling what could have been harmful experiences.

Since her partner had the same parental struggles, it was also very therapeutic for him to be the role that he never had in his life. It was extremely empowering for both of them.

Dom Meaning

Being a Dom involves treating the sub like they are a certain age. As a result, the sub treats their Dom like their male parental figure.

He takes on the paternal role of protector and caregiver, and administers discipline and training when needed. The sub relies on him emotionally, physically, and even sexually and sometimes financially.

Doms are not deviants. Therefore, a Dom wants to be with HIS girl, not girls in general.

It can be hard to explain this lifestyle or know what things to say to someone who doesn’t understand this kink. Basically this kink satisfies both individuals involved on many levels.

Why A Dom Relationship Is Fulfilling

Men are naturally attracted to youth and innocence, and having a sub meets that need continuously. They will also have the satisfaction of having someone rely and dote on them, and counting on them to “fix it” when things get hard.

Similarly, subs are constantly seeking the praise and attention of their Dom and will do their best to please him. When his girl disobeys rules, a Dom also gets the fulfillment of disciplining her in any way he desires, (and she has consented to).

She will also come to him with her sexual needs, as he knows how best to please her.

In a symbiotic way, what makes the Dom happy,  fulfills the sub’s needs and vice versa. She will be made to feel eternally youthful and beautiful, and he will spoil her and cherish her.

Subs that choose this relationship are usually emotionally fragile at times, and having a supportive, paternal figure is very soothing. Likewise, being told they’re a “good girl” makes Doms feel extremely content. And obeying the rules and knowing they’re making their Dom happy gives them immense reassurance.

This is a great way to mix innocence with naughty sexual curiosity. Don’t listen to people who try to say that kink is wrong. The Dom lifestyle can become the basis for a healthy BDSM relationship, and bring even more happiness to both the Dom and his sub.

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