One of the most misunderstood types of BDSM relationships is the Dom dynamic. For some, it’s just fun role-playing with clothing and outfits. For others, it is their identity.
Even though there are many benefits to this fetish, it can be hard to know what things to say to someone who feels this lifestyle is wrong.
This blog is inspired by a friend named Lilah. Ever since she became sexually active, she always had a “older man kink”. She loved her Dom and enjoyed being coy and pretending to be innocent.
Unfortunately she did have parental issues growing up. Being in this Dom lifestyle with her partner was a healthy way for her to explore this kink without fear, shame, or enabling what could have been harmful experiences.
Since her partner had the same parental struggles, it was also very therapeutic for him to be the role that he never had in his life. It was extremely empowering for both of them.
Being a Dom involves treating the sub like they are a certain age. As a result, the sub treats their Dom like their male parental figure.
He takes on the paternal role of protector and caregiver, and administers discipline and training when needed. The sub relies on him emotionally, physically, and even sexually and sometimes financially.
Doms are not deviants. Therefore, a Dom wants to be with HIS girl, not girls in general.
It can be hard to explain this lifestyle or know what things to say to someone who doesn’t understand this kink. Basically this kink satisfies both individuals involved on many levels.
Men are naturally attracted to youth and innocence, and having a sub meets that need continuously. They will also have the satisfaction of having someone rely and dote on them, and counting on them to “fix it” when things get hard.
Similarly, subs are constantly seeking the praise and attention of their Dom and will do their best to please him. When his girl disobeys rules, a Dom also gets the fulfillment of disciplining her in any way he desires, (and she has consented to).
She will also come to him with her sexual needs, as he knows how best to please her.
In a symbiotic way, what makes the Dom happy, fulfills the sub’s needs and vice versa. She will be made to feel eternally youthful and beautiful, and he will spoil her and cherish her.
Subs that choose this relationship are usually emotionally fragile at times, and having a supportive, paternal figure is very soothing. Likewise, being told they’re a “good girl” makes Doms feel extremely content. And obeying the rules and knowing they’re making their Dom happy gives them immense reassurance.
This is a great way to mix innocence with naughty sexual curiosity. Don’t listen to people who try to say that kink is wrong. The Dom lifestyle can become the basis for a healthy BDSM relationship, and bring even more happiness to both the Dom and his sub.
Are you ready to be my Dom? Call me for an ExJordynary Experience💜
Read my last blog. Pegging: Let’s Talk About The P-Spot. Discover why the prostate is an orgasm powerhouse.
It Was Supposed to Be A Business Trip I had liked my boss from... Read More
I’ve had a fascination with latex balloons. Whenever I touc... Read More
Learn Your Body First The first step in learning to fuck yourse... Read More
How to Embrace Your Inner Homewrecking Hotwife: A Neighborly Guide &nb... Read More
I Gave My Fuck Buddy Some Dripping Wet Panties! Little did I kn... Read More
Super BALLS For The Super Bowl! I’m usually not very spor... Read More
Tease and Denial: Keeping him on Edge and Locked Away Tease and... Read More
You want to be my good boy, right? I know you just love to list... Read More
Solo Toy Kneeling on the bed, I slowly brought my vibrator to m... Read More
Pet For The Weekend I’m so nervous and turned on, at your... Read More
I Made a Mistake When I first started working as a phone sex op... Read More
Brittany is the ultimate Pro. She knew exactly what to give me without me asking. She helps me explore new sexual fantasies.
There is something about Aileen that drives me to do the things I do. I could spend a whole day with her. What a hot sexy voice.
My session with Sammy was literally one of the hottest I’ve ever experienced!
Once again I had an amazing session with my Goddess Aileen. It was my most intense in years. We covered a vast number of areas including, but not limited to, CBT, NT, humiliation, degradation, ridicule, blasphemy, etc… I must say if you truly want the best there is, the best there was, and the best there ever will be contact Goddess Aileen. I am proud, and humbled, to be numbered among Her disciples.
Gracie is absolutely amazing at being the perfect person you want in your fantasy. She made me burst rather quickly. Will definitely be calling her again real soon to hear her whimper for me. I Highly recommend Gracie!
It had been a while since I had called the Kingdom. My regular Queen isn’t around as much so I have been looking for a new Queen. I have been watching Addison for awhile and was finally able to connect and I was not disappointed. Addison is a stunningly beautiful young woman with the face of an Angel and a heavenly body. More importantly behind that sweet smile and beautiful eyes is a devilishly sexy mind. I was nervous but Addison took the few clues I provided and created an amazing experience for me. With her sweet voice and sexy laugh you are completely under her control without even realizing it, but she does. She had me begging to be her slut to do with as she wanted. Five stars are not nearly enough for this smart, creative, sexy, and beautiful young woman. Connecting with Addison is difficult due to her popularity, but I will be talking to her again because she is worth the effort. Thank you Addison for an amazing experience.
Joey is just incredible. Words cannot possibly describe how amazing she is. Her skills are unprecedented. She is phenomenal at building a unforgettable fantasy. If you haven’t called her, you’re insane. I almost hate sharing her with anyone. CALL JOEY!!
My 4th call with Emily and she continues to amaze me with her beautiful appearance and that sexy voice. We did a nice long call with some roleplay at the airport. It seems stuff in my bag needed to be inspected which lead to a search of me. Before it was done, I was had by multiple agents and one of them was a TS with a huge cock. Going to be a good trip to Europe! Thank you Emily 😘
Kora is superb at tease and denial, leaving me begging for the release I want.
I’ll be calling back for more!!!
Raven is smart and so sexy!! She always knows just what to say.
Do yourself a favor and call CJ, you won’t be disappointed. She is beautiful, smart, sexy, and incredibly versatile. She can adapt to any kink and take you to a whole new level you’ve never been before. I highly recommend her!
After reading Addison’s blog about her offering a sexting session, I had to try it for myself. I have to say it was amazing. I was so turned on and couldn’t help but explode. Can’t wait to play again.